How To Create Effective, Efficient Relationships

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“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.”  ― C.G. Jung

Relationships Are Necessary

Relationships of all kinds are often perceived as very delicate things, that require extra effort to maintain. However, a relationship can also be something that can provide security and can also be long lasting despite many trials. Building expansively-effective and lasting relationships is a necessity for several reasons. For example in a group or organization, the well being of the people depends on how efficient and effective that group or organization works. The group or organization is also dependent on how the members work well with the management. An ineffective group or organization can really be very frustrating. An effective group or organization can also ask so much of their members, that sometimes the members would have no life outside of work. Or they would have to sacrifice the other aspects of their life just to meet deadlines. For an organization or group with this kind of scenario, relationships can be stressful or otherwise suffer from permanent breakdown. People who depend on these groups or organization also suffer.

Society Is Defined As A Web Of Relationships

The world we live in, requires all parties to work and contribute their share in order to achieve a common goal. Having a relationship that is good, where cooperation and respect are manifested, can bring society together better. In this way each member works for the good of the whole and towards achieving a common goal. This can only be attained with effective and efficient relationships. Understanding the other parties’ feeling and position creates an effective and efficient relationship. The easiest method to understand what is important to another party is to ask them what they want and listen to what they have to say. When the other party realizes this, they would feel the importance given to them. Effective and efficient relationships require folks to openly express their feelings and positions on all matters pertinent in the relationship. Respect is the key to all relationships. In order to create a more effective relationship, parties should treat each other with respect.

Relationships Require Authenticity

We can show respect just by listening to the other party and by trying sincerely to understand their position or point of view. You can also show respect to other parties by confirming that they are doing everything they can before or after you listen to them for reassurance. The opposite of respect is quick forming of judgements based on unfounded facts and preconceived notions. Respect is the very foundation for a great relationship. This also means respecting yourself and respecting others. Another key area in forming an effective relationship is to tackle differences of the other party directly. Differences between parties or people are quite interesting. For example in a conversation where each party listens to the other party, you may observe that each is having two different perspectives. Work towards a win-win solution for both parties. This can be done when at least one party acknowledges that the relationship is important. That party would then exert more time, effort and energy to understand the other party’s needs. Should they fail, it is comforting for that party to know that they tried. So there really is no way to fail if you attempt to understand the other person or party. Effectively listening and no pre-judging. This is important if parties are to understand each other. Informal discussions are conducive for parties. They bring out issues and concerns comfortably. They also feel more relaxed making them think more clearly.

Healthy Relationships Are Complimentary

Develop an atmosphere where the other party can express their feelings when they need to. When parties fail to express whatever is on their mind or their feelings, it can get in the way of building an effective relationship. Parties should be aware that certain things exist naturally but should be controlled in any dealings in any relationship. Human nature is one. Some of these things found in a relationship also include a history of stereotyping or mistrust, blaming the other person or party for a strained relationship, excluding the other party’s feelings when focusing on a task, no clear and defined objectives, roles and expectations of each party in a relationship is also unclear. Relationships are important to anyone, addressing issues and problems right away is a must to further improve the relationship. As they say ‘No man is an Island’.